We Are All Connected Through Our Hearts
We often speak about people, ‘having a good heart’ and we know intuitively when someone is open and loving, we know also that when we can be open and loving we are creating better relationships with others. But, did you know your physical heart has around 40,000 neurons in it, that communicate with your brain and store memories? Did you know that the Dr Andrew Armour who discovered this, calls it the ‘Little Brain’ and that it accounts for the fact that some heart transplant patients take on some of the characteristics or memories of the donor?
As a healer, I’ve long ascribed to the belief that our memory is carried in the cells of our body as well as our energetic system and that this would account for the transference of memory etc. However, now this scientific research has cast new light, and we can understand more easily how this ‘memory transfer’ can be so, especially with heart transplants. It begs the question in my mind, if someone receives the heart of a donor that lived a life of compassion and love, would those qualities also be transferred? I would hope so …
The Heart Chakra Governs The Heart
Our heart physically, is governed by the heart chakra energetically, and while this ‘invisible’ part of our system, is hard for the average man on the street to comprehend, it plays a vital role in how we all interact and how we feel. The heart chakra should be open and free flowing in a healthy, balanced person, but my work as a healer, often involves clearing this chakra and helping people to let go of emotional and mental beliefs that stop them from being able to be open and loving. Since we are moving toward a time of global loving – kindness; more and more people are becoming aware that letting go of your past emotions and old out dated beliefs, is very freeing.
This video shows how the heart emits unseen energy and how we are ultimately all connected through it.
So, How Can You Help Yourself to Create Better Relationships?
Let me paint you a picture, and give you a typical scenario where the heart (chakra and brain) has stored past issues that turn into beliefs … It’s our stories that we tell ourselves that that turn into your experiences now …
Let’s call the character in my story Alex … Alex is a fairly typical person, works hard, has lots of friends, is sociable and friendly, but finds it difficult to really connect closely with someone in a relationship. In the past, Alex has had partners, but after a while, something would happen in the relationship and Alex’s partner would let him down. Alex felt wounded, and didn’t respond well, and their partner would subsequently leave the relationship, leaving Alex feeling abandoned and very hurt. This was a pattern that had repeated a few times and Alex now found that they couldn’t bring themselves to let someone get too close.
This scenario is quite common generally.
So, what does Alex now believe? It goes along the lines of .. ultimately, something will go wrong and they will leave me. Therefore, there’s no point in getting too close to someone because I’ll get hurt. To Alex, close relationships = painful endings.
Why the Pattern Repeats and What Happens Energetically
Alex has had experiences in the past that are stored as memories in his brain, but will also be stored within the aura/chakra system. When we have experiences that are traumatic especially, these are stored and can attract like energies to them. The old adage, like attracts like is in play here. So in effect .. Alex will be energetically resonating with the past issues and traumas that surround the topic of relationships, for him. Someone who also carries these energetic resonances, that fit his pattern will come along and that will form part of the attraction. Think of Alex’s beliefs that he’s carrying, being represented by a plug socket, then someone, who fits his requirements in the casting of his next story, is the plug .. the prongs representing all the things he believes about a partner. He resonates with and therefore invites, someone who is selfish, hurtful and abandons people. But remember, everyone will have their own beliefs, and when you factor that into two people coming together, you can begin to see that it’s a minor miracle relationships actually do work, and why they are something that needs working at!
We are moving toward a time where everyone will be aware of living from the heart and that we are all connected through our hearts and while that isn’t happening now, the more people who become aware of the true nature of humanity, that we are more than our physical bodies, the more people will awaken to the idea that they can be more than they thought.
A Tool for Releasing Old Hurts and Beliefs from Your Heart
A very useful tool that I use with my clients to help them let go of old beliefs that may be holding them back, is as follows:
Firstly, get yourself some paper and a pen, you can use a journal if that’s something you already do, but be aware that you will need to destroy what you’ve written afterwards.
Then, think about a situation in your life that is causing you problems, then write down briefly why you think that is.
Alex: Finding a good relationship that lasts.
Now step back, look at what you’ve written and ask yourself, what story am I telling myself that makes this true to me?
Alex: Relationships end because partners always seem to let me down and then leave because I feel they don’t care enough for me.
What is the belief I have created that lies beneath that story?
Alex: Relationships hurt and end painfully
Write your belief down and then put down any other related beliefs that come to you ..in Alex’s case, he could also write something along the lines of, ‘ I attract partners that are selfish’
Once you have written down your beliefs that you are going to let go of, take another piece of paper and write a positive statement in the present tense, that completely counteracts each belief.
Alex’s Old Belief – I attract relationships that hurt
Alex’s Positive Affirmation – I attract relationships that love, support and nurture me
Now .. go back to your first sheet of paper with your negative beliefs
Time to let go …
You can do this various ways, but the favourite seems to be burning the paper … safely of course!! I recommend going outdoors, if you can, and burn the paper in a metal container, an old saucepan is fine, then when it’s all burned to ashes, just allowing the breeze take the ashes. Alternatively, you may want to tear the paper into small pieces and take yourself off to a nearby river and say your prayer etc. as you ‘give’ them to the river. Doing something physically to let go of the old beliefs is very important. Don’t be tempted to keep them in your journal .. or put them to one side to dispose of at a later date, because you are literally .. holding onto them again!
As you burn/dispose of, your old beliefs, you can say a little prayer or offer up to the Universe, your old, outworn, beliefs that have been holding you back, allowing space for your new positive beliefs to come in. Something along the lines of “I release that which no longer serves me for my highest good” or something similar.
After you have done this, it’s a good time to go take a shower, and put on fresh clothes, symbolically starting afresh from this point!
Over the next few weeks, leave your positive statements where you can see them regularly, or make a point of reading them from your journal daily. Allow these positive statements to filter into your belief system and rejoice in forming better future relationships. You are gently re programming your belief system and since your beliefs and what you resonate with are what you attract, this is a good thing!
I hope this article helps you to create better relationships in your life. If you would like to add to this, or comment, please feel free to do so in the box below.
Many blessings and happy relationships
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